"Volatile Relation"!

Yep. I was talking about being selfish.Take for instance, your small kid. How desperately you try to find someone to take care of him. If you have a helper who has grown up kids, you seem to be blessed. You want their kids to come n stay as long as possible at your home to give company to your little one n play with him. These kids of the poor helper are fed properly. Every now n then they are showered with gifts n chocolates.Taken out in your car for a nice drive. You seem to love their presence in your house. You do your work peacefully which may include wrapping up your office work or long chat with your friends on cell or laptop, or just watching television; or taking rest in your ac bedroom ;or beautifying yourself.

But what happens when your kid grows up? Where does your care for those poor kids fly? You suddenly discover how unhygienic they are. Their nails are long and dirty, their hair was never washed properly, they walk around your house with cracked feet, they wear the same shabby clothes everyday, your curtains get dirty when they hide behind them while playing hide n seek, you sanitize your kid's hands each time he comes in contact with these kids, you don't have time anymore to take them out for a drive, you don't buy chocolates or gifts for them anymore because you have to save money to secure yours as well as your kid's future.

So what changed? What went wrong? The answer is very simple. Your needs changed. Your priorities changed. Those poor kids remained their own selves, still hoping to play with your kid 'some day', getting a morsel of food 'some day', going out for a drive with your kid 'some day', receiving small gifts, at least during festivals 'some day'.

And the best part, your kid never changed. His friendship n liking for those poor kids grew even stronger with his growth. He never forgot his true companions in his time of need when his parents didn't have time for him. And the worst part, he longed for their playful n happy companionship 'every day'.

Are You A Living Magnet?

Have you ever pondered upon the fact how selfish and self centered people have become over the period of time? People don't seem to see anything beyond their interests. If husband doesn't give quality time to his family, he can always very easily escape by telling what a troublesome time he's going through because of his authoritative boss in office, or his promotion issues, because of the loans that he has taken for his house or car, pending payment of policy for the kids, etc. After which, the family can't demand any time from him anymore. But when he plays his favorite sports like squash, golf or tennis; when he plays his favorite instrument like guitar or flute; when he reads newspaper , watches his favorite program on television; when he downloads movies, songs or checks mails and chats with friends over the computer, when he is with his friends and yapping to glory over the phone, does he, even for a moment, think of those problems that he used as cushions to escape from his duties towards his family? Nope. Why? His life is compartmentalized, where the family is not spared a room.

Staying at home on holidays or spending more time at home doesn't matter.What really matters is the quality time given to your family. Helping your spouse with the drudgery of household work, playing with your kids without the remote control or any such device in your hand, taking genuine interest in the interests of your family is all that is required to have a happy and peaceful life in the real sense of the term. It's the ultimate goal for which one has to aspire and persevere. After all, all of us word hard for the betterment of our family as a whole.